Swinger

I was going to explain swinger to cake in my comments box but realised it would be better to do a post instead.

I met Swinger on 'that site' about 2 weeks after I joined it. We had both been drinking when we first made contact so there was a lot of bolshiness from me and contrition and persuasion from him. We very quickly moved onto IM. He appreciated my sense of humour, he also appreciated my photos. Suggestive but certainly not explicit. we chatted nearly every evening in the week leading upto the first time we met. Which was the day after his birthday. (He had wanted to meet on his birthday but I think I already had something else on or was it him I forget now but we couldn't meet that day). When we met I thought he was lovely (I had worried that there would not be the same chemistry in person as there was online). He talked a lot and I found everything he was saying very interesting but I was willing him to move around the table and kiss me. I wasn't going to make the first move.......supposing he didn't fancy me after all. But after a couple of drinks we went for a drive along the road to a car park with a great view and a burger/tea/coffee van. While we waited for our drinks to cool we talked some more and that is when he kissed me. Wow........Swinger knows how to kiss. I was wearing some new crimson silk earings that I had only had for a few days so I took them off putting them on the shelf over the glove compartment. Well it wasn't just the hot drinks that were steaming the car up. We went for a drive into the countryside to get a little, no sorry a lot, more intimate then he drove me back to find my car.

When I got home I realised that I had left my earings in his car. I text him and he said that we would have to meet again so he could return the earings. I didnt expect to hear from him for a week as he was with family over the weekend then going over to the Emmerald Isle with his work for 5 days. But he was in contact over the weekend then when he was away he began texting me complaining that I was being too quiet. We text a lot over the next few days finally deciding to spend a night together in a hotel when he returned. After that night we saw each other about twice a week and spoke on IM or text in between. Then there was the day he was chatting away when he asked what time we were meeting........we hadn't arranged to meet,but he insisted that we did. He really wanted to see me and wouldn't be able to over the next few days.
when we were sitting in his car with our drinks at the same view point as that first night (our regular meeting place) he broke away from kissing me to tell me that he had that morning been told he had got the job he had applied for 6 months earlier. this job would mean that he would be near to his children who still lived in Europe. He had retired from the Army a few years ago but now works as a civilian for them. This was wednesday and his new job started on monday. The next few days were frantic for him getting everything sorted before he left. But we still kept in contact, he promised we would keep our friendship and be in contact the same way while he was away but we just wouldnt see each other although he would be back from time to time. It was two weeks before I heard from him again. Again he was complaining that he hadn't heard from me. He was about to get his internet connection so it would be better. He told me he would be over for a few weeks soon and would see me then so I wasn't to go missing him too much. I didn't hear from him for another couple of weeks then he was texting me on his way home could I book a room at our hotel. He couldn't wait to see me. I was playing it cool though pretending I didn't know what he was looking forward to. We had our night together, he was distant, wasn't really there with me. He had been in Basra while he was away which was why he couldn't send or receive text. we exchanged a couple of text on the sunday evening by which time he had already travelled to where he was going to be on his course for the next two weeks.
I never heard from him again. I sent a few text and a few emails, just chatty stuff but got no reply.
I worried about whether he was safe, if anything happened to him I would never know. Who would even know to tell me. I pined for a while but I was seeing others anyway so that helped.
I wrote about him in august to celebrate his birthday and my memories of him. I emailed it to him, but still I heard nothing.

Until Thursday evening when he sent me a chain email. I replied and he replied and so it went on. He says he needs to do some crawling.............he will answer any questions I have. Today we exchanged a couple of text. Now I wait to see when I hear from him again and what he has to say.

sometimes when I check my stats I see there have been visitors from the country where he was based, I always wondered if it was him. I am pretty sure that I emailed him the blog address when I first started it.

I am sooo glad that I now know he is alive and safe. My life has moved on I have done and seen a lot in his absence. But I still missed him. I had come to believe I would never hear from him again. Today he said he was suprised I still had his mobile number. I never delete numbers until I can't remember who the person is. (I have learnt in the past that if I delete a number I will come to regret deleting it). I have not forgotten Swinger. I may not have mentoned him much but I didn't forget about him.