Work was fine today even with NL back, it was a very quiet day which meant that I could get on with catching up with some of the things that have been put to one side for weeks. But whilst I was enjoying my work there were other problems rearing their ugly heads.
First I had a missed call from home while I was away from my desk, this was followed by a text from OJ.
ET needs to get his act together, cos this is 3rd day off out of 11 which is way below the compulsory 85% so dont be suprised if you get called in.
WTF when I left this morning ET was up and getting ready for college so what was OJ on about?
I rang home and ET answered, I asked him why he was home, he had missed the train so didn't go to college as he would have missed his first lesson. He is quitting college and has applied for a job at Co-op. I can't deal with this now so I will talk to him later. When I got home I discussed thi with all the boys, we all agree that ET can't give up college after just 2 weeks. He has agreed to stay at college until half term, then if he still feels that college is not for him he can leave but only on the condition that he has found himself a job that will pay him enough to be able to pay me the money I will lose when he is nolonger in education. So we will have to see what he does.
Then this evening their father phoned asking if he can sleep on my sofa until 10th October, hes very down and if he can't find anywhere that is near enough for him to walk to work (in town) at 4.30am each day then he will get under a rail line. Not sure how he would 'get under a rail line' but he seems to think he will. In other words hes blackmailing me. 'Give me a roof over my head or the boys lose their father'.
I told him 'no' time and time again but he kept begging, in the end I said I would think about it but wasnt making any promises.
I can't have him here and I don't know why he thinks otherwise. He told me that he doesn't mind if I have someone, he wont be any bother. Bloody cheek. As far as I am aware he doesn't know about Romeo and I would like it to stay that way for the moment, not that Romeo seems to be much in evidence at the moment. I wish he was around giving me the moral support I need right now.
Whilst I feel sorry for him I can't allow him into my home, into our lives. How do I stand firm and stop him from wearing me down on this. If he was still being objectionable it would be easy. But as we have been civil for the last year, it has become harder to say no without appearing cold hearted. I just know he is going to lay the guilt on me.