Saturday, 30 May 2009

I don't want to go

Tonight Plumber's band are doing a gig at the same place where I saw them last month. He has invited me to go along. He can give me a lift even though he is already taking others. When he asked me last week I said I wasn't sure. This week we hadn't talked much until he phoned me last night from the pub. He was with his Aussie friend who arrived on Thursday, one of his old bands was playing. Apparently there were a lot of old friends there from other bands which he had been part of at some point or another. He reminded me about the gig tonight I said I wont go.

This morning he woke me up with a text telling me he was online. We chatted for a while before he went into town. He again invited me to the gig tonight but I said no. He wanted to know why.
so I told him that I don't want to pretend to be 'an aquaintance'.

He is happy to be seen with me but won't tell anyone who I am. I am sorry but if he can't acknowledge who I am then I don't want to be out with him. If he wants to keep me a secret then don't take me to places where his friends are.

Once his mate leaves on Monday we are supposed to be seeing a lot of each other in the next two weeks. I think this will be make or break time. He will have to come clean about what is going on.

Anyway this week I have begun chatting to some other guys (2 of them who I have chatted to on the phone in my lunch breaks have the same name as Plumber). Whatch this space for more news about Wednesday, Max friday, Captain, The Doc, Echo and last but not least Embassy


MarmiteToasty said...

Good grief, where do you find the time or the energy or the money to keep up with all these blokes? lol

Im in agreement with you about the plumber..


nitebyrd said...

That's a good decision, LIR. If he won't own up to the fact that he's seeing you as more than a friend then he's definitely hiding something. You shouldn't be hidden, you deserve so much more.

Lady in red said...

marmite it doesn't take much energy or any money to chat online and I let the guys phone me so that doesn't cost anything either.

As for the time you may have noticed there has been less blogging going on than usual.

Lady in red said...

nitebyrd that is exactly how I feel. I think he now knows he can't expect me to pretend. I will find out when I see him on Monday if he really understands. Then we will see where that leaves us.

If he isn't prepared to show me the respect of being honest then he doesn't deserve me.

When I was engaged yrs ago I was kept secret from his parents (or rather him seeing me was a secret they knew we were engaged) I felt more like a mistress having to hide all the time. I won't do that again.

Fire Byrd said...

I'm right with you here Lady, NO HIDING, If we ever have to be secret at our age then there is something seriously dodgy with the bloke.
And anyway sounds as if you have enough going on elsewhere.

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