Meme

I have been tagged to do this meme by EMMA.



Here goes:



1. The rules of the game get posted at the beginning of the post.

2. Each player answers the questions about themselves in their post.

3. At the end of the post, the player then tags 5-6 people and posts their names, then goes to their blogs and leaves them a comment, letting them know they’ve been tagged and asking them to read your blog.

4. Let the person who tagged you know when you’ve posted your answer.



1. What was I doing ten years ago?

Ten years ago I had just gone back to work after ten years being a stay at home mum with part time evening jobs. I was earning so little with this first job that by the time I had paid the child minder for having JA (aged 2) and my bus fares etc I was a whole £20 pw better off!! But I felt it was a stepping stone to something better. I was a wife, a mother, a taxi service to my family, but I didn't have a life of my own except those 5 hours each day when I was working. (I was a temp on a 3 month contract, I stopped working there 2 years ago after 8years).



2. What are five things on my list to do today?

a) Stay awake at work ........just about

b) check the bank in to see if I have any money.......done, I don't

c) visit mother before she goes to visit my grandmother........going after I publish this

d) Publish a post on at least one of my blogs ..............almost done .......there are several posts in the making

e) catch up on some sleep................soon



3. Snacks I enjoy?

apples, snackajacks, chocolate, cheese, scones



4. Things I Would Do If I Were A Billionaire?

Of course that would be my debts sorted, a decent house (nothing fancy just one thats right for me, oh and perhaps my boys too if they promise not to make a mess). Hire someone to look after

my housework etc. Take my boys on holiday, buy them a few treats and make the money goes as far as I can without being either a miser or stupid with my new found wealth. Get the surgery my dr says I need but cant get on NHS (tummy tuck for my irreparable abdominal muscle damage).



5. Three of my bad habits?

a)chewing the end of the little finger on my left hand

b) Doubting my own desirability

c) forgetting to take my HRT



6. Five places I have lived?

a) I was born in Essex where I lived for my first few months with my parents before moving to

b) Ringwood in New Forest (although I was too young to remember being snowed in with my pregnant mother in the winter of 1963) before moving as a 2 yr old to

c) A static Caravan site on the North Downs in Kent.

d) Growing up in the Kentish town on the river Medway of Tonbridge close to but not Tunbridge Wells (where I later lived when I met SF)

e) Moving to the South Coast in 1988 just in time to give birth to DC where I ahve lived for 20 years now.



7. Five jobs I've had?

a) kennel maid

b) sales assistant in sports shop

c) Insurance renewals Clerk

d)Hotel Receptionist

e) Sales Administrator



8. How did you name your blog?

my original blog was named after my battle to find the real me, I have found lots of different sides to myself along the way. My next blog was named after something my partner in the swinging world called us. My current main blog is named after the name I call myself (some think it is because of the song, but really it is down to 'N' because during the time we were together he associated me with the colour red. Red coat, red car, red skirts, red tops, red nails and lipstick.



I need to tag 5-6 other bloggers. I tag. Percy, Mulder, Gypsy, Jeff and Ron

since writing this I have read Percy's latest post and realise that it would not be appropriate to tag him just now so instead I tag LV ........(you can do it on an email and I will post it on here)



oh and btw my colleagues now know that I have been given responsibilty for Scotland, we have a new young man starting next friday working with me and BG. BG is being very negative about the opportunity to earn commission for some of the sales we make. In a day and a half I earnt about £12 in commission which although not much was a start (and that was just from 3 orders we have now been given more products to earn commission on). Oh well if she doesn't want to do it then that means more opportunity for me to improve my situation. If I just make £10 a day thats £200 a month on top of my salary.....I'm not going to turn that down when all it takes is an extra few minutes on a call.

Tagged

I have been tagged by Not so Fat Controller



WHAT ARE YOU READING?

The rules:

1. Pick up the nearest book.

2. Open to page 123.

3. Find the fifth sentence.

4. Post the next three sentences.

5. Tag five people



Ok I have not yet begun reading this book but it was the earest to hand.



Testament of Friendship by Vera Britain, I couldn't find a picture of this book but here is one of the others from this series.

The six personalities chosen - frederick II, St Francis of Assisi, Joanna of Naples, St Catherine of Siena, Savonarola and Leonardo da Vinci - were united by the parts that they had played in the medieval struggle between the secular and religious ideas of the Summum Bonum. We had spent many hours of our Italian holiday searching for pictures and stories to illustrate heir careers.

Our exertions were justified, for the first address proved Winifred to be both a born lecturer and an adornment to any public platform.

now I tag Jeff, Pixie, Mei Del, Wyld Cat and Mulder

After I wrote my post last night about Lotto and Romeo, I went to visit Harvey, he needed my help again!! He rang me at work yesterday begging for my help with some home work he needed to do on the computer for a course he is doing for work. I agreed to meet him at his place about 9pm saying that I wouldn't stay long as I had a date with my computer. I had jst left his place having done all I could to help him, when I got a text from Romeo. I didn't manage t get back online last night then this morning I couldn't get the internet working. This evening I had just got home and was sending a text to Romeo when it got diverted to 'drafts' because as I was send my text I got one from Romeo. I just don't know how we keep doing that, I had not heard from him all day. We carried on texting for the next hour then it went silent. But just after 8pm my phone began ringing and it ws Romeo which was a really unexpected surprise. He is back in the near European city he seems to spend most of his time in. We chatted for about 20 mins before I had to go out and I heard him arriving at his hotel. He says he still has to stay there for a few more days but he will ring me again in few days.

Following a comment last night by Mei Del saying that Romeo ought to realise what a lucky guy he is, I sent him an email telling him that he should realise how lucky he is as there are other men who are interested in me but it is him that I want. I'm sure it can't hurt to let him know that there are other men around who are more readily available than he is, keep him on his toes as it were. After our text conversation today I was a little concerned that so much of our chats have become sexual. I don't want a repeat of what happened with Forest, I was trying to email Romeo about my worries when the laptop battery went flat. But after our telephone conversation, (I didn't mention my worries), I felt a lot happier that he is interested in me not just sex.

all these men

I am afraid that I was unable to prod Romeo into adding the next part of First as he wasn't able to get a connection. However he did send me this unexpected text at lunch time today

Hi dearest LiR, Sorry not to speak yesterday I could not connect to the web. you are in my thoughts and my body craves your touch. Would love to be there with you right now making love. Speak soon Romeo xxxx

I am hoping with every fibre of my being that he is able to get a connection tonight. When he sent this text I was in the shower. I always do a lot of thinking in there, perhaps it is the hot water cascading over me that washes away the murk leaving me to think clearly. I was thinking about how much I want Romeo to come home so that we can spend some precious time together. I was analysing why I want him so much. I don't need him to make me happy, I am not feeling needy. It isn't as though I am incomplete without him. The only way I could think of it was as a very lovely iced cake. I tried to describe this to him in a text so he probably just realised that I am off my rocker. I thought of it this way.

The base of the cake is the past 40+ years of my life where I became the person that I am.

The jam in the middle was the last few years of finding myself again and playing the field.

The top part of the cake is me now and in the future, being more confident and happy.

Romeo is the icing on my cake and I am just hoping that I am blessed with a deep layer of soft icing rather than a dusting of icing sugar .

Today I found myself in the bedroom of another man. Now now minds out of the gutter, I was hanging up the two new cardigans that my mother had bought for my grandfather (94 next month). My mother has been poorly for the last two days and as I have not been to see my grandfather for a while I said I would go. Every weekend I promise myself I will go, but I find it hard to fit in at a time when he won't be either eating or asleep. But today I made myself go to see him. When I arrived sure enough he was asleep but the lady in the wheelchair next to him told him he had a visitor. It always amazes me that he can be asleep when I arrive but as soon as he wakes up he sees it is me (even though I have not been for weeks) is all smiles and knows immediately who I am. Now I am only half his age and I am usually a little groggy when woken from a sleep.

It was very heartening to find the old man in good humour and seemingly well. When we first moved him to the home where he is now back in December he was like a little lost soul. It felt rather like leaving your child at school for the first time only this was an elderly man and he will be living here for the rest of his life. He had not been able to choose the place himself and had to trust our judgement. The home where he had been for 15 months could nolonger look after him as he was becoming too frail and they don't have the staff to give him the care he now needs. We have now moved him to a nursing home in our town, he was an hour away at the other home. It must be very daunting to move to a place you have never seen, having to get ued to new people new routines at that age. But he does seem to have settled in well and he is looking healthy. I think apart from the use of his legs he misses having someone sensible to talk to especially now he is too frail to hold a newspaper and his eyesight and hearing are not great. I think this was also my first visit when he has not told me that 'I won't be here long'. It wouldn't surprise me if he was around for a good while yet.

Later this evening I had another surprise. As I was sitting here making a few long overdue amendments to my blog DC came into my room for a chat. We discussed the money situation both mine and his. Then as he was leaving the room he gave me a hug and kissed my cheek. I thought those days had gone years ago. Then about an hour later ET came in for a chat and began stroking my hair!! what have I done to deserve all this extra attention from my boys.

I just got another award this time from Mulder. He has nominated me, Nitebyrd and VBF as his three favourite bloggers isn't that sweet of him especially after I am so naughty teasing him the way I do.

Defragmenting Rewards

VBF has given me an award

this is her reason - Because she is very inspirational and refreshing to read! xx

Thank you VBF that was very kind of you. I have never set out to be 'inspirational' I just tell it as it is. Sometimes life is hard, sometimes it is a little easier, sometimes it is great but the best way to get through anything is with a smile and a cheery word. I always try to see the lighter side of anything as I wasted too many years being miserable in my younger days. There are many people in blogland who are a far greater inspiration than I am. However it would be ungracious of me to ignore this accolade from VBF so I say a great big thank you dear girl.

Now VBF says we have to nominate 10 other bloggers for excellence. Umm now I believe that many of the bloggers I would nominate have already been nominated. so I am going to buck the trend and nominate all my readers both new and old (I refer to the time we have been aquainted not age). In my view all the blogs I read are excellent which goes without saying otherwise I wouldn't read them ....... oh there is one exception. There is a new blogger on the block who I have felt it nescessary to aquiant with the normal way blogging is done as he was becoming slack in his posting and commenting. Some of you may have noticed the reference nitebyrd made to mulder having a kicked arse.

Sorry Mulder you know I love you really ;-) but don't tell Romeo ok this our little secret.

Oh talking of Romeo I have told him that he will have to think of a way to make it up to me for missing my birthday........but I am not going to give him any suggestions as to how he can do this. I want to see just how romantic he can be if left to his own devices.

I had a phone call today to let me know that my skirt has been found, it was in the shop the whole time (among the suits naturally). Now when I was there yesterday I really wanted to tell the woman there how to find my skirt. Instead of checking methodically through every thing hanging up she was darting around looking here there and everywhere.........watching her progress was rather like watching a computer memory defragmenting.