tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7527870095382449976.post715231699383332756..comments2023-11-05T11:22:41.060+00:00Comments on Lady in red: when enough is enough and what happens nextLady in redhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02835625473505921821noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7527870095382449976.post-69002421605253156212008-11-16T20:07:00.000+00:002008-11-16T20:07:00.000+00:00thank you all for your sympathy and advice. I know...thank you all for your sympathy and advice. I know a number of people whose children have quit college and then gone on to get jobs. My fear with ET is that I cannot afford for him to be out of education and not working. He will need to find something that will earn him enough money to pay me the amount I will lose from tax credits.<BR/><BR/>But my biggest fear is that he will think he can just sit in his room all day everyday playing PS3 games.<BR/><BR/>I have been insisting that he goes to bed when everyone else does and when OJ goes to college tomorrow ET must go with him when he goes to get his train then he can go straight to connexions when it opens.Lady in redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02835625473505921821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7527870095382449976.post-2842400993478843502008-11-14T06:43:00.000+00:002008-11-14T06:43:00.000+00:00I hope your N1S is more comliant with those rules ...I hope your N1S is more comliant with those rules than our N1S! Ours agreed to all of them and then, for ages, did none of them. Really frustrating and stressful. He is now working but as for the rest well...good luck honey be firm!DJ Kirkbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08481107164497582398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7527870095382449976.post-72362744384788659072008-11-13T10:04:00.000+00:002008-11-13T10:04:00.000+00:00Can't be of much help, but having a plan will cert...Can't be of much help, but having a plan will certainly help him achieve his aims (if not his desires). It will certainly be better than him enduring college, which he is clearly not enjoying or getting the most out. Are there any careers advisers at the college who could provide him with different courses/ideas while he figures out what he wants to get involved in - they might agree to him doing some classes part-time rather than lose him (and their funding) while he explores the apprenticeship idea.<BR/><BR/>Good luckSagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01005047450040559399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7527870095382449976.post-45652701580679211202008-11-13T08:47:00.000+00:002008-11-13T08:47:00.000+00:00I was like that, never finished high school, but m...I was like that, never finished high school, but mum made sure I went straight to work if I wasn't going to school. Started off as a check out chick, ended up as a area manager, making more money than my flatmate who was a pilot! It's not ALL about education, you can get just as far along without one, getting the education of life. <BR/><BR/>But if he wants to truly work in the gaming industry, you've got to find out exactly what he needs for that qualifaction, as I'm sure he'll need some sort of degree, and maybe he can change his course to lead toward that?Trixiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18444757419149336359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7527870095382449976.post-77234944037151915592008-11-13T06:23:00.000+00:002008-11-13T06:23:00.000+00:00as parents there is only so much we can do - lead ...as parents there is only so much we can do - lead the horses to water and all that. it's their life and we can only be as supportive as we can. they will make wrong decisions from time to time, but the main thing is when they learn from their mistakes eventually.<BR/><BR/>i'm going through a similar thing with my son george, at the moment this is a gap year and i'm gently nudging, encouraging him to go to open days, look at prospectuses and hoping he is so bored during this gap year he'll be rushing off to college at the end of it! but if he doesn't and decides to bum around the rest of his life??Annie Wanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12385503768671197108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7527870095382449976.post-36186744314043668632008-11-13T03:01:00.000+00:002008-11-13T03:01:00.000+00:00I've no advice, just sympathy. I live in dread of ...I've no advice, just sympathy. I live in dread of youngest telling me he is quitting college. Cause that is the only thing that is keeping him and me sane at the moment!<BR/>xxFire Byrdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477692359400671374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7527870095382449976.post-11102172727469892502008-11-13T01:43:00.000+00:002008-11-13T01:43:00.000+00:00Boy. I still remember the girl's decision to stop...Boy. I still remember the girl's decision to stop her education. I panicked. I was darn sad--but she was relieved and free. She'd bound herself up with things that just weren't WHO she is.<BR/><BR/>Today, she's happily employed, doing something she truly loves and is awesome at.<BR/>And she's still 'free'.<BR/>I'll hope for your kiddo to have that same experience...that he'll be led to, or 'shown' something where he can BE all that he is. It's in those places that we truly excell, eh?<BR/><BR/>Oh, but I know the angst. I feared it was a decision to 'throw away' her life. Instead it freed her up to live and love it.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14408403855260279799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7527870095382449976.post-76892815055509032562008-11-13T00:03:00.000+00:002008-11-13T00:03:00.000+00:00It is at times like this that I wish there was a m...It is at times like this that I wish there was a male figure in his life he could talk to sensibly.<BR/><BR/>SF says he will talk to him at the weekend but I am not sure that is sensible either.Lady in redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02835625473505921821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7527870095382449976.post-80252021905117388172008-11-12T23:54:00.000+00:002008-11-12T23:54:00.000+00:00yes you are right it wasn't what I expected but if...yes you are right it wasn't what I expected but if he has made his mind up it would be a shame to try and persuade him otherwise.<BR/><BR/>Well done on the reality check and I hope he abides by it..xDark Sidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01041020755058214988noreply@blogger.com